5. Does your partner bring you up or bring you down?
Are you happy more than you are sad? There are always going to be bumps in the road in every relationship. Feelings are going to get hurt. People are going to make mistakes and be unfair at times. These times however should be few and far in-between. It’s amazing how many people cry every day and still wonder if the relationship is the right one for them. Life is short. You deserve happiness, and the great news is that it’s simply a choice. Have the courage to leave any situation that is not creating happiness in your life. You must get rid of what no longer serves you to make room for what will.
6. Can you communicate?
The best relationships have amazing communication. No one is a mind reader. If you desire something, say it. If something bothers you, tell your partner. It’s really not what you say, it’s HOW you say. Speak with love and compassion. Do not attack. Be a solution finder.
7. Are they interested in Personal Growth?
This is not some new age babble, it’s a fact. Many relationships end because one person outgrew the other or in other cases one person’s core beliefs were sabotaging the relationship. All relationships begin with self. We must consistently excavate. Dig deep below the surface, look at our shadows and work on ourselves. Relationships serve as our greatest spiritual teachers because they often trigger in us what needs to be healed, but we must we willing to do the work. It takes 2 to tango! One person cannot carry the whole relationship, both parties must be equally invested in personal growth for the relationship to flourish and sustain long term.
It can be scary to leave a situation in fear that you will not ever find anyone else, but you will. Stay true to yourself, continue working on yourself and you will attract the right person for you. It can also be scary to surrender to a relationship. Perhaps you are looking for reasons as to why this relationship won’t work because you are scared to get hurt. Perhaps your core beliefs are that you are not good enough, or don’t deserve a great relationship so you sabotage it before you get too involved. There is no better feeling than to love and to be loved. It is our birthright.
In either case, have the courage to really look at the above suggestions and make the decision that will bring you joy and happiness long term.